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Hello lovelies!

Sooooo earlier last week my roommate and I wanted pizza one night, and we started a phone order, but the man over the phone was confused, so we ordered online instead.  

Fast forward, we picked up our order and then started walking over to hang out with some of her friends across campus.. Then my roommate and I both start getting phone calls from Dominos, a very angry worker starts barking at us to come pay for our pizza, even though we already did?

We soon figured out that the man over the phone put our order through even though we never completed the order. I explained the situation to the man calmly, but he was extremely rude and ended up hanging up on me in the middle of me speaking. He called me again a few minutes later and told me aggressively that I had to come meet him and pay for the extra order, (and don’t judge me for this I swear I usually don’t act like one of those angry soccer moms) I raised my voice and went on a long rant about how people should treat others and how he wasn’t being a very nice or kind person. And, what a surprise, he hung up on me again.

I was pretty wound up after that happened, we walked a good ways across campus when we first got the phone calls, and started walking back to our dorm when we thought we hadn’t paid for our order (even though we had.) I was a mess and was extremely stressed out.

So, how did I deal with all of this pent up stress?

The first thing I did was sit down. I took a small breather (deep breathing is extremely helpful with reducing the amount of stress and anxiety you feel, I’ll do an entire blog post about that later.)

Then, I called my boyfriend and explained everything that happened to me that night. Talking to people you love, trust, and know will be supporting and understanding of you is very helpful in reducing stress. Having someone there to listen to your problems makes them easier to take on.

After I was done talking on the phone, I decided to relax in my room instead of going out with my roommate. I was still so wound up from everything that happened. Going out would not have wound me up even more when I really just needed time to myself to decompress and relax. I started to feel bad because I didn’t go through with my plans (which is really not a healthy way to think.) I had to remind myself that going out while I was stressed out wouldn’t be fun for the people I was going to hang out with or for myself, so staying in was actually not selfish at all.

When I got to my room I snuggled up under some blankets and journaled about how I felt about the disaster that was my Wednesday night. Journaling in general, but especially after a traumatic or stressful event lets you get your feelings out in an organized way so they’re not stuck in your head making circles around themselves. Or if the thoughts do stick around after are usually not as jumbled and not as constant, so you are still left with some peace of mind.

After journaling, I put on a video from my favorite youtuber, reminding me to stay positive. It's always good to watch any kind of feel good shizz nit AFTER acknowledging the negative emotions stress can bring on, so that you don't repress those feelings just for them to come back later. I left the video near the bottom of the page if anyone needs some encouragement to be positive! Ralph Smart has some great videos about positivity and self help, I definitely recommend checking his channel out (:

Oh, and I almost forgot...I ate the shit outta that pizza!!!!  (although I wouldn’t always recommend eating your feelings, the freshman fifteen is real man)

Before I leave you, always remember self care is selfless and to do it whenever you feel it’s necessary.

Have an amazing week!

Self-care: selfish?

College is stressful. Ridiculously stressful. As soon as one assignment is finished, there is a whole stack of work waiting for us to do. It seems like an endless cycle of responsibilities that will never be completed, an infinite abundance of papers, assignments, and stress.

Dealing with stress can be overwhelming, especially when society and people in our lives have made out self care to be selfish. Self-care is much needed for people to be able to be happy, healthy, productive members in society; if you can't do what's best for you, then you surely can't do what's best for others. Being good to yourself leads to you being good to all of the people you encounter in your life.

This blog is going to go over different ways you can de-stress and take care of yourself while dealing with a busy school schedule, reminders and encouragement that self-care is a selfless act, along with some of the stressful experiences I've had so far in college, and how I handled the stress that came with them.  I will share free or very inexpensive (because let's face it, we're all broke here) ways to take care of yourself and treat yo self. If anyone has any suggestions of what they would like to see in this blog please feel free to reach out to me!

Until next time, peace!